I am turning to you lovely readers to help with my dilemma of whether to have our wedding ceremony in a church or outside on the farm. So undecided! So many pros and cons either way.
I grew up in a Catholic family, Mr M in a Uniting family, although he is definitely not as faith based as me. On the one hand I would consider myself religious, we would baptise our children into the Catholic faith and send them to Catholic schools and I occassionally still attend mass. I went to Catholic schools throughout my entire schooling, made my first communion, was involved in Christian youth groups and am a Eucharistic minister. On the other hand we want our wedding to be super relaxed, casual and intimate. A quiet ceremony in a paddock would suit us down to the ground, I think a church wedding could be a bit formal.
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We are definitely having a marquee reception somewhere on my family property in Thorpdale (a matter of where is Bridezilla Dilemma #2!) and we love the idea of having the ceremony and reception in the one place. I originally had visions of us being married in the little chapel at our high school but after some investigating I found this wasn't possible...which made me 'decide' on a civil service on the farm...but then the thought of a cheesy celebrant marrying us made me cringe...
Going to the chapel or not...help!!
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We got ready, had the ceremony and reception in the one place and loved it! It suited us perfectly not to mention saved on transport costs, made the day more relaxed and ensured tha no one was drink driving (we had a courtesy bus at the end of the night though). Just remeber that your wedding is about the two of you, NOT your extended family. I have seen others attempt to please family (sticking with tradition in particular) and sacrifice on their own wishes and then regret it in the long run! Do what best suits you two as you will never please eveyone anyway! And my biggest regret was not being unique enough! Our wedding was fairly unique in may aspects but I regret not being more "out there" and playing it safe on some decisions!
oh the dilema!! I have no idea, although I too love the idea of a relaxed garden wedding - however am not religious at all...
i say decide with your heart emma. :)
I think it would be less stressful for you to get married in a church. So long as you get a say in how 'formal' the service is so you can play it down and have it more relaxed if you want. Finding a quaint chapel would definately be a bonus.
It's tricky Emma. David and I made compromises to accommodate our different denominations and the needs of our families. As a married woman of some years now (eek!) I would say to myself, as the young bride-to-be, the ceremony is a small part of your lives together. I'm very happy with the choices we made, and we worked it out together. It is about you and Mr M - your wedding day. We've been to all sorts of weddings, from the super-formal to the wedding in the paddock. All were lovely with glowing brides and smiling grooms. Make a choice based on what you'd like, rather than what you might think you should have. Sorry - long and garbled reply! Translation - work together to plan a fabulous wedding that suits you. Good luck!
I would say go with the outdoor wedding. Get a non cheesy minister to do the official stuff. You don't always just have to get a celebrant to do outdoors weddings.
I would KILL to get married on a farm! (you know, when Joel and I get married for the second time of course)
It sounds like you are really torn Emma. Take a step away from it for a while and see what your heart tells you. Your faith will be with you on the day no matter where you say your vows. There are some gorgoeus little churches around, setting a great mood...and the ceremonies can be just how you'd like it. Churches don't have to be formal. It is so special that you will have at least part of your special day on your family property. Don't stress too much, it will all fall into place....
ooh If I was to "do over" my wedding I would love an outside wedding.
I would so use Danni's wedding as inspiration - its just so perfect
http://www.ohhellofriendblog.com/search/label/getting%20married so
Well...I think you can still have a relaxed, intimate ceremony in a church if you'd like to go that route.
We married in the Catholic church, and we had only 50 guests. We didn't have a full mass. Much of my family isn't Catholic, so I figured only one side would get up...if that! We had a string quartet and it was really, very lovely. You can make it your own.
Friends of mine had a lovely candle lighting ceremony during their church wedding. Family members came up from both sides and lit candles, and then all those candles lit one candle to show the unity between the families...it was lovely.
Do what feels right for you though.
For me, the only downside with an outside ceremony is the weather concerns, but it's not the end of the world if it rains if you have a back up plan. Go with your gut and have a day that suits you. xx
really hard call and we had the same decision to make before we finally settled on a small church ceremony, celebrated by a deacon and without the "full mass" (and the church is little and old and beautiful - bonus!). initially my partner wanted the full mass (which was not my first preference), however the parish priest was not available on this day so we had the choice of either finding another priest or to have a deacon celebrate - i am hoping that the wedding ceremony alone will be a little less formal.
the other choice we had was wedding vs eloping. they both had their pros and cons, but eventually, heart ruled over head and we decided on wedding.
best of luck deciding - either way it sounds beautiful :)
I just found your blog (love it!) so I'm reading through some older posts.
Most uniting ministers would do an outdoors wedding, not sure about a catholic priest. But you might be able to get the best if both worlds.
Good luck with your plans.
Hello, I just found your blog and had to read about your upcoming wedding! I saw your bridezilla dilemma #2 about the ceremony and reception in the one place. Me and my husband were married by a family friend who happened to be a civil celebrant and we were married on the verandah of our venue, it was perfect! My aunty and her husband were married on the lawn of their venue by a civil celebrant and they didn't know him but like most civil celebrants he was a very personable people and really focussed on them as a couple and created a ceremony that was about their values as a couple. You should check out some civil celebrants and hopefully you both click with one. Good luck in planning your wedding I had a blast planning mine!
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